Melissa L. Neckers

Melissa Neckers is an attorney at Miller Johnson in the Grand Rapids office and Chair of the Family Law Practice Group. She has been practicing law for 23 years and her practice areas include family law, mediation, adoption, assisted reproduction and gestational surrogacy.

Family Law Practice

Ms. Neckers helps individuals with divorce, parenting disputes, domestic conflict, and family law matters. She represents clients in divorce, custody, parenting time and support cases.  She is a zealous advocate and will fight for them in court if necessary.  However Ms. Neckers is also committed to not creating additional conflict and helping parties settle their issues amicably if possible.

Domestic Mediation

Domestic mediation offers couples an option to traditional divorce family law proceedings and requires fairness and equal treatment of both spouses. Ms. Neckers assists parties jointly by acting as a neutral mediator.  In direct domestic mediation, the agreements are the spouses to make. Ms. Neckers’ role is to facilitate productive discussions, help move both parties to a desired end, and, if settled, draft a written agreement. Reaching an agreement is to the benefit of all involved, including children and dependents. Through her mediation, Ms. Neckers helps divorcing spouses by reducing stress and costs associated with going to trial, and keeping perspective on the welfare and well-being of both parties.

Adoption Practice

Ms. Neckers is also the chair of Miller Johnson’s Adoption, Assisted Reproduction and Surrogacy Practice Group. She works closely with birth parents or prospective adoptive parents and also works closely with adoption agencies. She reviews the Michigan adoption laws and procedures, explains birthparent or adoptive parent rights, advises on legally permissible adoption costs, reviews and negotiates adoption contracts, and advises on options for post-placement arrangements.  She represents adoptive couples, single parents, step parents and guardians.

Assisted Reproductive Technologies/Surrogacy/Gestational Carrier

Ms. Neckers also works with parties in the area of assisted reproductive technologies (ART) and gestational surrogacy. She is able to help clients work through the complex legal issues that are often involved and satisfy requirements of fertility centers.  Ms. Neckers also helps clients determine or establish parental rights once pregnancy occurs.

Melissa Neckers has been on the frontlines of helping change Michigan Surrogacy Law. She represents the intended parents of a widely publicized case in which biological parents were forced to adopt their biological children born via surrogate which drew national attention to Michigan’s outdated surrogacy law. She is also working tirelessly with Michigan Legislators to change the law to insure that other Michigan families don’t have to go through the same difficult process in the future

Professional Affiliations and Activities

Ms. Neckers is a Fellow of the Michigan State Bar Association and is a member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.  She also belongs to the Grand Rapids Bar Association and State Bar of Michigan where she is a member of the Family Law and Children’s Law Section and the Alternative Dispute Resolution Section. In 2015, Ms. Neckers was appointed to the Michigan Court Forms Committee’s Adoption Work Group for a second three year term.

Ms. Neckers is the current President of the board of directors of Legal Aid of Western Michigan and is a Fellow of the Michigan State Bar Foundation, which recognizes distinguished lawyers and supports the Foundation’s public service efforts.  She also worked for Legal Aid of Western Michigan from 1998 through 2001.

Ms. Neckers was a Law Clerk for the Honorable Patrick Snyder and the Honorable James Kieffer with Circuit Court, Civil Division in Waukesha, Wisconsin.

Articles, Interviews and Presentations

Ms. Neckers has authored, presented or been interviewed for several articles including:

  • Michigan the ‘worst’ for couples seeking surrogacy,” WOODTV8, November 20, 2019
  • “Adoption, ART and paternity,” ICLE, Feb. 2016 and 2019
  • “Joint legal custody nixes adoption by stepparent,” Michigan Lawyers Weekly, April 24, 2013
  • “Starting the Adoption Process,” Divorce Lawyers blog, Dec. 2012
  • “The Murky intersection Between Family Law and Bankruptcy,” Michigan Family Law Journal, co-authored with Rachel Hillegonds, 2010
  • “Family Matters, Too,” Priority Read – Business Law Update, Winter 2004

Community Activities

Ms. Neckers is very involved with her kids’ schools, her church and also refugees new to the United States. She performs pro bono work through the Pro Bono Program of Western Michigan, Michigan Immigrant Rights Center and Dispute Resolution Center West Michigan.

Ms. Neckers is a past board member of several community organizations.


Ms. Neckers received her law degree from Marquette University Law School in 1998 and her B.A. degree from Hope College in 1995